Lessons Learned

My life has changed significantly over the last year. It’s actually kind of shocking to me how much it has. I’ve changed over the last year. These changes have not been easy. Look Ma, I’m an adult. Lessons and things learned:

This girl can cook! I got bored of chicken and steam bagged veggies so I started putting some work in the kitchen. I was impressed with myself. No roman noodles here!

You got bills, on top of bills, and then more bills (yup, a Destiny’s child song). So you log on to your bank account and wonder where the hell the money went!?

Save. There will come a month that you will need it. Dad, you were right. Happy? I admitted it!

Once you lose respect for someone, it’s hard to see them the same. Sometimes we hold people in such high regards or witness them do something you never thought they were capable of. I’m not sure what’s worse, losing trust or losing respect.

Wine = bestfriend. Lots of long days and a glass or two (or the whole bottle) goes a long way. Don’t have the bottle though, it leads to angry text messages.

Never lose yourself in someone else’s problems. They are not your own. You can’t help someone who won’t help themselves. You have your own to deal with.

Your real friends don’t judge you or your mistakes. They just don’t. They have your back regardless of the stupid things you do (usually more than once) and they’re there…with wine.

Let go of your regrets, they’ll eat at you. Just let it freakin’ go. I can’t change what I did or the decisions I made, so what’s the point?

Say I love you, say it over and over again regardless of whether they say it back or feel it. Just say how you feel with no fear. You may not get it in return but you can walk away knowing you said everything you felt. I’ve turned into a sap apparently.

Get up and train! Regardless of how you feel, get the f up and train.

You can never make someone see their own worth and what they deserve. Hey, you want to settle, go ahead. All you can do is remind them. For the love of god people, stop settling in life.

A new appreciation for the support I receive from my parents. Regardless of my decisions they have supported me, they have been there for me and not everyone has that. Thank you. This is the first time I can openly talk to them about relationships, careers, and what I’m facing. This is the one change in the last year I am most grateful for. My mom is still angry I moved out though.

Don’t lose yourself in love. Don’t lose a part of yourself for someone else. Don’t lose yourself period. And if you do, grab a drink and go find yourself again.

Some things aren’t meant to be, dwelling on them or trying to explain them won’t help. Once you learn to come terms with things faster, you live life easier. Shit happens, it’s the way it is.

Some people just don’t have a pair.

The problems you have won’t mean much 5 years from now. Five years ago I was stressing about my current boo, now I laugh about it…and a little at him.

Regardless, life is always good. ~Adding Mo Miles.